Her Story:


Why has that word, when associated with a person, seemingly become a bad thing?
I haven’t had it happen to me too much but you see it when you watch tv, see it in interactions in real life;
if someone is single, it seems the world thinks they must be lonely and must be in want of companionship.
That their life isn’t complete without another to share it with and that they must do anything they can to find their person. 

Now yes, we are built to be social beings,
from the beginning God knew Adam was lonely and wanted a companion, and so he made Eve.
But one can find companionship in friends and family, and I certainly do not need any pity for being single.
It is simply where God has me at this point in my life and
I will continue with whatever plan He wants me to follow. But please don’t feel sorry for me. 

The hardest part about being single for me is not the actual ‘singleness’
and more so not knowing what is to come in my future.
Yes, I have hopes as to what I want, what I think I want,
and what I think God wants me to want but when it comes down to it, it is not my will but Gods.

I’m sure most people know
Jeremiah 29:11 “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord,
‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”
There are always moments of uncertainty,
where I don’t know what I’m supposed to do or why I am where I am,
and this is one verse that I constantly turn to that seems to pop up whenever I need it the most.
Whether it be a friend who offhandedly messages about the verse
when I didn’t realize I needed to be reminded of it,
or me holding my Bible on a hard day and asking God to open His word
and show me what to read;
this verse helps to remind me that despite my fears, concerns, or questions about my future,
God has a plan. 

And as much as I wonder what that plan will be and hope for certain things,
I know I can trust in God.
That he is Yahweh, the I AM.
Always has been, always is, and always will be.
And He is always and forever entirely focused on me and His plans for me,
while at the same time being entirely focused on every other human being, in His infinite wisdom.
My God loves me.
And in the trials of life, this knowledge gives me great comfort.

There’s a song that I love by a band called MercyMe called Even If.
It helps remind me of all the plans I have for myself, all the questions I have –
Will I remain single? Will I have someone? Will I get a solid steady job?
All these plans are fine and good, and I know my God can do all I could hope for and more,
BUT…and here’s where the song gets me every time. 

“Lord, even if You don’t. My hope is You alone.” 

I can want and hope and pray for various things:
a relationship, a secure job, a life of travel and adventure, and my God is able.
He can rescue me from the lion’s den or pull me out of the fire if He wanted.
But no matter what happens in my life, whether happy, sad or anything in between,
God is my rock.
even if God doesn’t grant me the things I ask for,
even if my life doesn’t go according to my plan,
even if His way is not the way I think I want to go,
even if this season doesn’t end, even if I struggle daily,
and on the flip side
even if life gets really good, no matter what.

I will trust in Him alone.

I will find peace in my hope of Jesus Christ and rest in His embrace,
no matter the outcome.

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