Stop feeding the monster
God is bigger

Fear comes in all shapes and sizes – overthinking, anxiety, insecurities,
and the feeling of rejection can all seem to take over our thoughts. Fear grabs a hold of us and doesn’t want to let us go. One of my biggest fears and struggles has always been that I’m not good enough, the conversation in my head usually goes “you aren’t good enough so why bother trying?”, “This person is better, so what’s the point”, “you’ll never be where you wanna be”. This fear is a constant battle for me, and once I push through daily. But, you know what? I’m constantly reminded through this fear that God is greater, God will provide, and it doesn’t matter if I’m good enough for others, because I’m good enough for an awesome savior to live and die for me.
 

The LORD is my light and my salvation
— whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life—
of whom shall I be afraid?
– Psalm 27:1

 

How can I overcome this fear?

 
Change our thoughts. This is one of the best lessons my mom has ever taught me. Now I know what you’re thinking, “I can’t”, “Seriously? That’s it?, That won’t work”, “That’s just a cop-out answer”. These were my thoughts, before my mom and I dug a little deeper into how to change my thoughts. I’m not saying it’s an easy or quick fix at all, it takes work, it takes time, and it is a constant, conscious effort to change.
 

A conscious change

 
What does this all entail?
  • Stop caring about what other people think – It doesn’t help you, and only hinders your growth. Besides, why should we care? Focus on the friends and family that love you no matter what, and most importantly God.
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Galatians 1:10
 
  • Every time you catch the thoughts of – “I’m not good enough”, “no one likes me”, “why aren’t I like this person?”, change those thoughts to – “I am good enough”, “I have a God that LOVES me”, “God made me the way I am”
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
 
  • Focus on God and His word instead of what everyone else is doing.
“My heart is confident in you, O God; my heart is confident.
No wonder I can sing your praises!”Psalm 57:7
 
  • “Lather, rinse, repeat.” Follow the shampoo bottle steps with these tips (I have to bring hairstyling into this somehow)
 

The fear we should have – The good kind of fear.

 
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
Proverbs 9:10
 
The fear of the Lord, the bible talks about this a lot, a reasonable fear that allows us to eradicate all the deceptive and destructive fears. This healthy fear gives us awe and respect for our God that puts us on a path of spiritual knowledge and wisdom. It’s the only kind of fear that has a good result.
 

What does it mean?

The Hebrew verb yare can mean “to fear, to respect, to reverence” and the Hebrew noun yirah “usually refers to the fear of God and is viewed as a positive quality. This fear acknowledges God’s good intentions (Ex. 20:20). … This fear is produced by God’s Word (Ps. 119:38; Prov. 2:5) and makes a person receptive to wisdom and knowledge (Prov. 1:7; 9:10)” (Warren Baker and Eugene Carpenter, The Complete Word Study Dictionary: Old Testament, 2003, pp. 470-471). So, rather than a paralyzing terror, the positive fear of the Lord taught in the Bible is a key element in change. It helps us have a proper, humble perspective of ourselves to our awesome God; it helps us in times of temptation when we need to remember the serious consequences of disobeying God; and it motivates us to become more like our loving Creator.


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